To begin a coaching session, there will be discussion around the nature of your problems, as well as your dreams and ambitions. They may not feel like dreams at this stage, they may simply be a better way to live, or avoiding wanting to hide or die. This stage will include setting sights on some of the goals, as well as discovering the extent of the problems.

We then look at the reasons why you have the habit of being shy, withdrawn or nervous, why you don't have confidence. I will be keen in this phase to show you in very clear ways where your logic and your way of thinking is letting you down (cognitive behavioural therapy) and to demonstrate to you how things could be interpreted differently.

Next, ways and means of changing your approach, your way of thinking, your habits, your damaging processes. Closely linked with neuro-linguistic-programming, I will give you constructive and empowering ways of overcoming the problems that you have.

Finally, we will be looking at ways of compensating for the loss of experience and the lack of 'street cred' that your shyness or lack of confidence has left you with, ways of 'catching up'. This may include, where appropriate, ways of getting into the kink scene, if that's the life for you.