Dating isn't about rehearsing pick-up lines, chat up lines or conversation openers. Its about knowing who you are, being confident in who you are, and claiming your place in the world. In this case, taking part in that age old game of finding a compatible partner, for life, for sex, for company.

The part of dating that those who are shy or not confident most often miss is the empathy with and interest in the other person. Encounters so often become wholly focussed on 'How should I approach her?' 'What should I say?' 'How will I look?'.

I can help you recognise your tendency to do this, I can coach and teach you other ways if being, alternative approaches to the rehearsed lines, ways to make you attractive and interesting to others.

For some, dating itself isn't the problem, its the 'second date' syndrome that's the sticking point. Not necessarily the second date itself, but it's the process of commitment and letting the real self be known to your potential partner, warts and all, becoming vulnerable that's the problem.

To be crude, if you can pull, but you can't shag, or you can pull and shag but can't get your own 'real' girlfriend, you have 'second date' syndrome, and this too can is amenable to coaching.